Dating only one person at a time
Even if you're looking to keep it casual, "then by all means, also try out the variety and the spice of life." Steinberg does not suggest sleeping with more than one man at once because of added drama and STDs, but she advises all of her clients to go out on dates with multiple people—until they find someone that becomes particularly sparkly and special to them.Emily, 28, who was my grandmother's worst nightmare—a woman who became fixated on each new flavor of the month without keeping perspective.Grandma's concern was about weighting your options instead of driving yourself nuts and obsessing over just one man. "If you are looking for a serious relationship, then you should absolutely be dating more than one man at once...Not investing all your time, energy, and emotions into any single man, no matter how much he's convinced you he's Mr. You simply don't have time to fret about how much time he's fretting about you if you're simultaneously dating Mr. you need quantity to find quality," says "dateologist" and flirting expert Tracey Steinberg.Know what you want ahead of time so you aren't getting too invested. You should have a personal list."Ladies love lists, but Wygant says he's talking about a different kind."Most women make a list of what they want the guy to be, not how they (personally) want to feel."Somewhere between her wedding fantasies and serial dating, Emily was able to do some soul-searching.” And, that by being transparent, I’d prevent hurt feelings or building up certain dudes’ expectations.
"But some people date around because they are needy." Instead of worrying about how many dates you have and it being a balancing act, Wygant suggests women "date from feelings.
And besides that, do you have the time, energy, and stamina, to date a trio of guys at once?
They’re all in the notes section of my phone: the 26-year-old graphic designer from Baltimore. A couple of actor/bartenders who live within a five-mile radius of my place in Central Los Angeles.
“Dating several men can be a good choice for women, because many women tend to settle for the first man who comes along,” she says.
“Seeing how different men relate to you can open your eyes about what you want in a man.” She also says there’s no need to tell the person you’re with about other dates if you don't have an exclusivity agreement — which I agree with.