Dating advice for nice guys
They also need to have themselves validated from external sources, usually women. The first thing you need to learn is if you aren’t satisfied with yourself as you are, you have to get good at pretending you are while you’re busting your ass to get there for real.Begging attention off people, especially by trying to make them feel bad when they don’t give it, is just about the worst social strategy going.
It’s ok to care about someone, but that doesn’t mean I need to sacrifice all of my energy to try to help them.
That meant saying no to extra work hours, relationships that weren’t serving me, saying no to charities asking for money that I didn’t believe in, or someone asking for help when I was spread too thin. By not setting boundaries with my male relationships, my relationships with women would be affected too. “It sounds selfish to just cut people out of your life like that.” The point isn’t to kick your friends to the curb that no longer meet your needs. Do you feel uplifted and happy, or drained and sad?
Sticking with the same friends that I had for a long time felt loyal and honest. You can greatly lower the amount of time you spend with them, or make it conditional about when and where you do it. If I feel good after being around that person, I am much more likely to continue to hang out with them.
“I just can’t be with someone like you.” She told me. After a lot of digging and research I had figured out what a “nice guy” actually was. A man can be many things, but lacking self care is not one of them.
I could rely on the tactical PUA stuff I was listening to and reading, or I could break it down step by step myself so that I was a man who naturally attracted women who were right for me. I set a goal for what I wanted to be – An all around awesome guy who could make people laugh and smile, valued myself, and was driven and passionate about life.