Dating a guy with a kid on the way
This may be his awkward way of letting you know that he's fine with your single mom status. “Make it clear it's 100 percent your call when or _if _your kid meets him,” says Klungness. “Your two year-old will grow up and grow out of the short attention phase,” says Klungness. He's letting you know, loud and clear, that you're barely on his radar.” 8. He downs three Manhattans before the appetizers arrive. “Remember, guys that treat their moms well are usually keepers.” But if there’s no good reason for him to be attached to Mom’s apron strings, you should probably rethink the relationship because you’re not his main squeeze. It’s tempting and seemingly easy to, well, get it on with the guy next door — but don’t do it if you’re not serious about him.You found a bottle of painkillers in his medicine cabinet, but he’s not hurt and hasn’t been any time recently. The most important reason not to date someone with serious issues is that you won’t want him around your child. If it ends badly, he’ll still be your neighbor, which means he’ll be in your life. Your child won’t understand why it’s suddenly weird for him to play catch with the neighbor or why you hide when you see his new girlfriend pull into the driveway.But I ended up feeling like a frustrated outsider.’ Charlotte and Evan split after five years.‘Selfish as it sounds, I just didn’t want to share him,’ she explains.I imagined a loose scenario of every other weekend spent to a soundtrack of cartoons, on a diet of pepperoni pizza. In the early days, you don’t have sleepless nights worrying about them, but nor do you get the heart-melting sticky kisses, or eager eyes scanning a room for only you.You just clean up the popcorn and put the crayons away until next week.
You likely can’t drop everything for a date, or sleepover mid-week, so this means you really need to keep the communication flowing to compensate for the lack of face time.
If he’s not down to chat for twenty-minutes on the phone or Skype after your baby is asleep, he’s not dating material for you. Deadbeat Dad You may know how crazy it can be to coordinate with an ex when it comes to visitation and finances.
So you might be tempted to let it slide if a guy doesn’t see his kids often "because his ex is crazy" or he "wasn’t ready to be a dad." But don’t.
) But if he’s constantly refusing to come to your neck of the woods, that’s a sign something’s not quite right. ADD When you go out on a date, you don’t want to deal with someone who’s constantly making lame jokes with the waitress, or who can’t take his eyes off the basketball game on TV or the pretty woman at the bar.
“If making the effort to get together with you on your turf doesn't interest him, then he’s just not that into you and is likely seeing other women,” warns Klungness. Insta-Dad Your one-date-wonder wants to meet your kid already? Find someone who has a bigger attention span than your toddler does. Your Neighbor He’s hot, single, nice to your kid and gave you an emergency cup of milk once.